Feature: add Literal for join method "how" argument, modernize typing syntax

[OutSquareCapital]

This small PR focus on:

1. new Literal type for DuckDBPyRelation.join "how" argument, according to the following documentation:
   https://duckdb.org/docs/stable/clients/python/relational_api#join
   This will provide autocomplete and an immediate overview of the supported options.

2. Replacement of all deprecated 3.9 typing.Union and typing.List usages by their modern counterparts, standardizing this across the file (sometimes it was the old syntax, sometimes the modern one).

I wanted to keep this separated from my next PR who will focus on the Expressions inputs typing, to keep them focused and make review easier (since this one modify lines scattered across the file.)

[evertlammerts]

Thanks! I did a quick merge because we're prepping for 1.5 and need ci space.